Discord servers where everybody knows your name?

This is kind of a follow-up to my recent question about community. I took the responses to heart, and I've gone back to my local Unitarian Universalist, where I am showing up and pitching in and generally trying to become a part of the community. It's not working, though. Or it's not working quickly enough. I see those people for two hours a week and the rest of the time I still feel lonely and isolated.

I've realized that the last time I felt like my "I have friends" well was full was when I had a Skype group chat in the fandom I was in five years ago. We've since dispersed, and I'd like to find something like that again, but I'm having a heck of a time finding a Discord server that meets the criteria above. Either it's all 13-year-olds, or nobody has spoken on it in weeks, or it's a bunch of transphobes (oh, I should have said above that the community should be inclusive).

It's kind of a long shot, but I thought I'd ask y'all if you have any leads.

(It would be cool if MeFi had a Discord server! But I have seen no evidence of this.)